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10 Simple & Effective Tips on How to Have More Sex in Marriage
Before You Even TryThe ugly truth about sex life for couples is that not every person has the same needs, fantasies, and sex drive.
Be Clear About What You WantIf you're married or in a committed relationship, you can probably relate to what it's like to have sex without feeling as passionate or connected to your spouse as you used to.
If you want to focus on improving your sex life in your marriage or long-term relationship, then a good idea is to prioritize intimacy.
Go SlowIf you want to have a better sex life with your spouse, start slow and gradually build up to new levels. Starting slowly gives you time to work up to the next level.
Be Gentle With Your PartnerTo keep a healthy relationship, it's essential to be respectful and kind to your partner when it comes to sex. Sex is not just physical. It's emotional too. The most important thing to do is be gentle.
Make Your Partner Feel Wanted
Take the InitiativeIt sounds pretty self-explanatory. But I would argue that initiating sex is not the easiest thing to do when you're in a long-term relationship with someone.
Respond to Your Partner's InitiativeWe explained why you should take the initiative when it comes to sex, but remember that this goes both ways.
We are not saying that you should always agree to sex, when your partner initiates it, but keep in mind, if you will reject them over and over again, they will feel rejected and will stop initiating it altogether. This could create even deeper problems.
Start With a Clean SlateIf you want a better sex life with your spouse, forget the past and start fresh.
Take Advantage of SpontaneityIt's easy to stay stuck in a rut with your partner. You could spend all day long in bed together and never have sex.
Go Back to Basics
You may think that the answer is always to improve on the last time. While this is true for some couples, it doesn't apply to all couples.
Some things actually get better by going back to the basics. This is because when you go back to the basics, you look at your relationship in its purest form. You remember how you got together in the first place and are returning to that mindset when having sex.
This isn't just about sex, though. It is about creating memories, establishing intimacy, building trust, and having fun. The best part about it is that it doesn't take much effort. All you need to do is to decide to make a change.
Be Willing to Try New Things
In contrary (or in addition) to going back to basics, you always should also think about new things, especially when it comes to sex.
This means that you should be willing to try new things, such as different sexual positions, toys, and positions. Make sure that you have sex in ways that you have never done before.
If you find that something works well, try and continue doing it. In a relationship, the two of you should try new things together.
Make sure that you have sex in ways that you have never done before. Then, if you find that something works well, try and continue doing it.
In other words - if you won't try it, you won't know if you like it!