7 Simple Ways to Become More Creative in Your Sex Life

Sex is great, but – it can be even better! Sex and intimacy in a relationship is an ongoing process that have many forms, many ways to approach it, it has its ups and downs, and there is nothing wrong saying – I want to spice things up!

Sometimes all it takes to boost your sex life is a change in attitude. The right mindset can turn any routine into a pleasure-filled experience.

So, if you think that there are some things you could improve in the bedroom – amazing, you have come to the right place.

For all the people out there, who have trouble finding new ways to spice up their love life, we’ve compiled the following list of five ideas that are guaranteed to have your partner begging for more!

In this article we will core a brief overview, how to become more creative under the sheets, and have the best sex ever! To learn more about sex and foreplay, you can find more in-depth articles related to improving sexual wellness here.


*Tips are sorted in no particular order and can be done separately. 

Read time: approximately 9 minutes

7 Simple Ways to Become More Creative in Your Sex Life


Why should you be more creative in bed?

When you’re having sex, do you ever get bored? Do you ever get sick of the same old tricks and positions that seem to always work?


Or do you feel like you’ve tried them all, and that there are no new kinky sex positions left for you to discover?

If so, then probably you have hit a mental wall by thinking that there is nothing new to try. Or maybe you want to try something new, but are afraid your partner would not like it?

Anyway, you probably think that something is missing, but don’t know, where and how to start. That is where creativity comes to the rescue.

By being more creative, we are allowing us to also be open to new ideas, new activities, new poses, new experiences – and that is exciting. 

So, are you ready to change up your sex routine and experience new things?

Don’t be shy about saying yes. “People are more likely to enjoy sexual experiences that feel new and exciting, rather than stale and boring.”

Here are 7 quick tips how to increase your creativity in your sexual life.

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1. Understand Your Sexual Desire

When we think about how to be creative in bed and in our love life, there’s one word that we hear over and over again — desire.

And for good reason. If we want to be more sexually inventive, we need to understand and cultivate it. The best way to understand sexual desire is to understand how it works.

Desire is the urge to do something or be something. It is the need or lack of need for sex.

For example, if you have an itch on your arm, you may not be able to scratch it because it would hurt too much. However, if you want to feel better, you will have to do what is necessary to get rid of that itch.

Desire is the same. We all have a desire to have sex with a certain person. When you have this desire, you can't stop yourself from wanting to do that.

Of course, there is no magic pill you can take or switch you can flip to turn on your desire, but surely there are things that you enjoy more than other. If you have a kink – even better.

Maybe you can’t resist high heels. Maybe it is something as simple as watching your partner clean the dishes. Maybe it is having a fun date night. Maybe it is a sexy lap dance, or a sexy massage. Every person is different, but there is that thing for everyone.

So, find the things that tur you on, then be truthful to yourself, then talk about it with your partner, and see how your desires can be triggered. And then – well, good, sexy things will follow.

2. Discover the Power of Sexual Fantasy

We are sure you’ve heard of the phrase “Fantasy is the spice of life.” However, if you think about how it applies to sex, the saying could be reversed.

Fantasy is what gives the spice of life to sex. It’s the element that makes sexual fantasies so enjoyable and fun—and the element that often gets overlooked in the bedroom.

When you understand that it’s the fantasy of having sex with someone that can have sex with that person so hot and exciting, you begin to see why it’s so important to explore them more.

We have created two amazing tools to help you discover and unleash your fantasies - Naughty Scenarios and the Naughty Conversations.

The Naughty Scenarios is a card game that let’s you experience role playing, and enjoy thousands of different scenarios, where you let yourself to be someone else, and experience the pleasure that comes with it. Role-playing can be such an amazing way to boost your sexual creativity!

And the Naughty Conversations are a set of questions for you and your partner to better know your desires, fantasies and uncover more about your sexuality.

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3. Turn Your Lovemaking into a Tantric Experience

What is tantric sex? As Medical News Today puts it “Tantric sex is a slow, meditative form of sex where the end goal is not orgasm but enjoying the sexual journey and sensations of the body”.[1] 

The first rule of tantra is not to think about sex. Sex becomes a natural and instinctive part of the day when we’re in love, and having sex is much easier when it feels like it’s a pleasurable expression of love.

But it can also be a source of anxiety and guilt if it isn’t working out. It’s common for people to feel embarrassed by their desire for sexual pleasure or feel guilty about taking sexual pleasure. 

When we talk about Tantric sex, we mean that you should make sure that your whole body is involved in the experience. It will allow to fully explore each other's bodies.

If you’re talking about the Tantric philosophy, you’ll want to focus on the energy within yourself and the energy between you and your partner. You’ll want to make sure that your thoughts are clear, that your mind is focused, and that you’re ready to give your all.

So, the bottom line is that, if you wish to improve your sexual connection, start with your mind, and then the body will follow.

First become more intimate emotionally with your partner, and then the physical pleasure will follow in many forms. 

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4. Use Tools to Guide Your Creativity

A simple way to spice things up and become more creative in bed is to use pleasure play and sex toys.

By using these tools to help get the most out of your bedroom. On top of that you’ll find that you can use sexual foreplay to reach orgasm a lot faster than you’re used to, the toys itself can be an inspiration in your creativity process.

What we mean by that is – by trying out a new toy, you may discover a new pleasure point or new approach you would like to explore more.

If you don’t have any of these items and don’t know where to start, you are not alone, because today the sheer number of choices when it comes to sex toys, are overwhelming.

From the usual lubes, dildos, cock-rings and whips you can find yourself to be looking at leather costumes, clamps, electric-shock vibrators, anal play and much, much more.

So, we would recommend to first reflect what you already like and then chose the sex toy that might reinforce it. Maybe, you like hand-pay, then go ahead and take a pocket pussy for him and a vibrator for her and introduce this to your foreplay.

Or another great gateway toy is the Satin Pleasure Ties. They are innocent enough to be used as simple as just blindfolding your partner, but at the same time versatile, so they can be introduced as an accessory in sexual play to heighten other senses and can be used among the most sophisticated couples.

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5. Incorporate Oral Sex

Although becoming more and more common, oral sex still is a tabu among many couples, but it should not be like that. 

Oral sex is a wonderful way of not only spicing things up, but it can be a form of foreplay, a form of teasing before the main event, and a form of receiving (and giving) mind-blowing orgasms. 

So, use this "tool" as an excellent addition to your sexual life, and get creative!

6. Make a Sex Bucket-List

In addition to talking about fantasies, you can write them down, and make it into one big, sexy bucket list of things you wish to do at least once in your lifetime.

You may not be able to do everything in that list, but just by making the list, it will open your mind to imagination and creativity. 

To make this task even hotter and exciting, you can write some of the things together, and some - just by yourselves and present to each other as a surprise.

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7. Know How to Keep Your Relationship Healthy

This does not reflect directly to sex, and is a broad tip, but truly – when you have a harmonic, loving and trustful relationship, the sex also will be much better.

So, one of the most important things you can do to keep your relationship healthy is to be there for each other. To care and love each other, and just to be for them.

Being there for one another means that you show up when your partner needs you to be there, whether that’s emotionally or physically.

You should also be willing to go through the same struggles as your partner, as long as it’s in a loving and safe environment.

And, if you are sweet and loving in outside the bedroom, it does not mean you can’t be rough in it. Quite the opposite – if you truly love and trust each other, then you will be able to play out many activities – from sweet and vanilla, to kinky – whatever is right for you!

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In Conclusion

There is no ONE-right-way to do sex. Sex is many things, and it can take many forms, so at least a little creativity in your sexual routine is a must.

This isn’t to say that you need to do anything specific to your own sexual preferences—you don’t. What you need to do is learn about what turns you on and how to incorporate that into your own bedroom activity.

To unlock your sexual creativity, first you need to be true to yourself and unlock your desires and fantasies. Then you and your partner should be true to each other.

You also need to know your own limits and how much you can comfortably ask of a partner.

If you will be free and true in your relationship, then your bodies are the canvas – use them to paint many exciting, breath-taking and amazing moments together, and have the best sex ever!


As always, feel free to read other relationship tips and look around our store to find some thoughtful and sexy gifts for couples.

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We would love to hear from you!

Do you consider yourself to be creative in sex? What are your creative ways to turn on your partner?

Maybe, we missed an important thing that would improve your ability to become more creative in sex?

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