Why You Need to Schedule Sex (And How to Do It Right)

Sex is an essential part of any healthy romantic relationship. It sets a romantic relationship apart from a platonic one, right? Yet, with the constant demands of daily life, it's easy for sex to get pushed to the bottom of the priority list. 
That's why we want to share with you the benefits of scheduling sex. It is something that many couples may frown upon but can make a big positive difference in their sex lives and relationships. 

So, let's dive in and talk about why scheduling sex can be a game-changer for your sex life!

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Why You Need to Schedule Sex (And How to Do It Right)


Why Proper Planning is the Key to Mind-Blowing Sex

Many people believe that sex should be spontaneous, and scheduling it takes away passion and excitement. However, we believe that scheduling sex is not only beneficial, but it can actually enhance your sex life.

Let's start by addressing the common misconceptions about scheduling sex. Some people feel that scheduling sex is not romantic and takes away from the excitement of being intimate. 

However, scheduling sex doesn't have to be boring or regimented. Instead, it can be a way to prioritize intimacy and make it a regular part of your routine. Likewise, scheduling sex doesn't mean you have to stick to a strict timetable, or it will be a dull experience.  

Now let's dive deeper into why scheduling sex can be good for your relationship.

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Ensure intimacy despite busy schedules.

Let's get this straight - scheduled sex is better than no sex. Many couples lead hectic lives, and finding time for each other can be challenging.  

By scheduling sex, you're committing to prioritize your relationship, which can help maintain the connection between you and your partner.

Reduce pressure and anxiety around sex

When sex is spontaneous, some people may feel anxious or worried about whether they both are in the mood. Maybe one of the partners is being pressured.

This pressure can lead to a negative experience and may even lead to avoiding sex altogether. However, when sex is scheduled, it can be a more relaxed and enjoyable experience since both partners have agreed on the time and are prepared for it.

Create anticipation and excitement

When you schedule sex, it can build anticipation and excitement leading up to the event. This is especially true if you plan something special, like a romantic dinner or a sensual massage, to precede the intimate moment. 

This anticipation can help to enhance the sexual experience and lead to more fulfilling intimacy.

Encourage communication and exploration between partners

When you make an effort to schedule sex, it creates an opportunity for both partners to discuss their sexual preferences, desires, and boundaries. 

Sexual communication can lead to exploration, experimentation, and, ultimately, a more fulfilling sex life.

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How to Schedule Sex Effectively

Now that we've discussed the importance and benefits of scheduling sex in relationships let's dive into some practical tips and strategies for effectively scheduling sex.

Setting Time to Talk About Scheduling

First and foremost, it's essential to communicate with your partner openly and honestly about your desire to schedule sex. This conversation can be uncomfortable, so it's important to set aside time when both of you are relaxed and have no distractions. 

Make sure to have an open mind. Express your needs and desires clearly and listen actively to your partner's response.

The conversation is an opportunity to find common ground, make compromises, and ensure that both of you are comfortable with the arrangement.

Need some help in talking about sex?

The "Naughty Conversations" is a collection of 100 intimate and sexy questions about fantasies, desires, and sex. Play them with your partner, and let the Naughty Conversations do the talking for you!

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Strategies for Making Scheduled Sex Enjoyable

Once you've established a sex schedule, there are several strategies you can use to make the experience enjoyable and fulfilling.  

One of the keys is to be creative and plan fun activities together. This can be anything from trying new positions, exploring role-play fantasies, or setting the mood with candles, music, or a romantic dinner.

It's also important to be open to trying new things, which can help keep things fresh and exciting. 

For example, experimenting with new and sexy couple's games, positions, or toys can help break out of sexual routines and add variety to your sex life.

However, it's important to remember that the goal of scheduled sex isn't solely to increase the quantity of sex but to improve the quality. Focusing on intimacy, connection, and mutual pleasure can help create a more fulfilling experience for both partners.

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Maintaining Intimacy and Connection Outside of Scheduled Sex

Finally, it's crucial to maintain intimacy and connection outside of scheduled sex. Sex is a crucial part of intimacy and physical affection, but it is not the only one. So, you need to be intimate as much as your daily lives allows you to.

This means finding ways to show affection and appreciation for your partner throughout the day, such as cuddling, hugging, or sending thoughtful messages.

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Why Good Sex Requires More Than Just Spontaneity

Even with the benefits of scheduled sex, people may have some common concerns. Let's look at a few of them and how to overcome them.

Some people worry that scheduling sex takes away from the spontaneity and passion of the experience. However, as we discussed earlier, scheduling can increase anticipation and excitement, leading to more passion and better sex. 

It's important to communicate with your partner and find a schedule that works for both of you. Feel free to switch things up or try something new to keep things fresh and exciting. 

Another challenge may arise when partners have different sex drives or face other obstacles that make scheduling sex difficult. In these situations, it's crucial to have open and honest communication about your needs and desires. 

Try to find common ground and make compromises that work for both partners. If you're having trouble finding a solution on your own, don't hesitate to seek the help of a therapist or sex coach who can provide guidance and support. 

Ultimately, the key to having good sex is to find what works best for you and your partner. Experiment with different schedules, activities, and techniques to find what brings you the most pleasure and satisfaction. 

Don't be afraid to try new things, and be open to exploring new ideas. Remember, good sex is not just about spontaneity - it's about communication, connection, and intimacy. 

By prioritizing these things and being open to scheduling sex, you can create a fulfilling and satisfying sex life that will benefit you and your relationship.
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Final Thoughts 

Congratulations on making it to the end of this post! We hope you've learned much about why scheduling sex can be a game-changer for your sex life and relationship.

To recap, scheduling sex can ensure intimacy despite busy schedules, reduce pressure and anxiety around sex, create anticipation and excitement, and encourage communication and exploration. 

Despite what you may have heard, scheduling sex does not have to be boring or unsexy. On the contrary, with the right approach, you can make scheduled sex as enjoyable and fulfilling as spontaneous sex.

So our call to action for you is to give scheduled sex a try! Start by communicating openly and honestly with your partner about your needs and desires, and then find a time that works for both of you. 

Get creative with your planning and try new things to keep things interesting.  By scheduling sex, you're taking an essential step towards prioritizing your sexual and emotional health in your relationship.  

Go ahead and give it a try, and see the benefits for yourself. We're confident that you won't be disappointed!

As always, feel free to read other relationship tips and look around our store to find some thoughtful and sexy gifts for couples.

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