Surely, not all women crave drama in their relationship, but those who do – can cause serious harm to their relationship and directly to their other half.
Basically, creating drama is creating conflict where there really isn’t any problem, or enlarging a small problem into a big one, and then escalating it up to the point, where the man starts fighting back.
An argument by itself is not a bad thing. Actually it can be a good thing (read here, when arguments can be a good thing), but fights that arise from creating a drama, are never good, because they are created for the sake of arguing, or without expressing the actual problems.
When communication breaks down, the arguments begin. When you begin creating conflict before it has the opportunity to develop, you’ll find yourself in an endless cycle of fighting, which will hurt your relationship, your self and your partner.
Willingness to create drama can come either because of your childhood (maybe your parents argued a lot, so you feel comfortable in conflict situations), or it can be due to some deeper problem in your relationship.
So, the first step would be to find out and admit – which one is it. Have drama followed you for as long you can remember yourself, or is it something you find yourself in this relationship?
If it is the first option, then it would be best to have some work with yourself and try to resolve the inner conflict that is following you. And, don’t be afraid saying this to your partner – in a healthy relationship you should be able to deal with these kind of problems by supporting each other.
If it is the second option, then the best approach would be to think what the underlying problem might be, and then talk it out with your partner. If it is something truly serious, you may consider going to a couples therapy.
So, if you find yourself constantly getting yourself into another drama, stop for a second, and think, maybe – the drama is not following you, but it is you that is creating it.
Yes, it is easier said than done, but in the long term it is worth it.